One of the hardest thing to do in life is CHANGE. Change literally comes with it’s pros and cons and either can outweigh the other by how you define change in your own terms. Change to me has literally been the hardest thing I’ve had to undergo. At first I thought that it would be easy cause I liked the thought of a challenge but turns out the universe had its own plan with me. Honestly if you would have told me four months ago that I’d be so many counties away from home where I barely knew anyone I would have called you out of your BS. But guess what? Here I am all the way in Kwale, away from home or anything that reminds me of home. I know you might be wondering how I just woke up one day and decided that yeah this isn’t it and just up and left home and came here, cause same love, same. Sometimes I think to myself that maybe I was not thinking clearly and this decision was rushed and then at other times I think to myself that this was probably the best decision I ever made in my entire life.
Let’s start with how I got here shall we? Last year probably around April I was talking to my grandma’ on phone and I was venting on how I don’t like the course I was pursuing at that time in uni and her being the most supportive person ever asked me to change my course or change both school and the course. At first the idea sounded wild but the adventurous side of me was like why not, I mean I’m young and I have all the time in the world, so I applied to join another college and a different course in mid May 2021. If only I knew what I was signing up for. Fast forward mid Feb this year I got an acceptance letter and honestly I was in denial considering I was posted so far away from home and I hated the thought of being taken out of my cormfort zone honestly. I still ended up coming here cause honestly who would pass on seeing the ocean view anytime you feel like it. But anyway so far so good I’d like to believe that.
On to the three main PROS shall we?
Firstly, if you have ever relocated to a new place you obviously understand how peaceful it is to be somewhere where absolutely no one knows about you or where you are from. It’s the peace that comes with the illusion that you can actually have a fresh start and maybe just maybe things may work out this time round. And that thought has literally been therapeutic at some point especially since I have to be my own emotional and mental support.
Secondly, if you know me, you probably know that I am a social butterfly, but ever since I came here. it’s like I unlocked a totally knew person. I actually came into realization that I’m an extroverted-introvert. At first I thought that it was just a phase as I was still trying to adapt to my new environment but apparently it’s just who I am as a person and honestly I actually am in love with this whole new realization. I’m still trying to find myself and hopefully I’ll be in love with her.
Thirdly, I’ve learnt to see things from a whole different perspective based deeply on me trying to relate to people and different ideas on things and not just from my point of view. This has helped in getting acquinted with different people and also to ease my mind on the fact that this is a new environment which is totally foreign to us but we somehow have to adapt and try to relate.
To the three main CONS:
Adapting to a totally new place where you know absolutely no one and the climate is hot as hell, has to be the hardest thing one has to undergo after relocating. So where I actually am is still deep rooted in a small swahili village along the coast and coming from an urban place to a rural place will take a toll on you. If you don’t have anyone to vent to about any slight inconvinience you go through, might actually drive you insane honestly. But time is all you need and yeah it will take a while. More than once I have entertained the idea of leaving but well I can’t so I just have to be grown and pick myself up.
As the saying goes, distance makes the heart grow fonder, but what they did not tell you is that distance weakens links with your loved ones. It might not be abrupt but gradually getting in contact gets harder and harder due to different schedules and all. This is why they advise y’all to master dettachment because being attached to a friend or a loved one and later having to cut ties due to the distance or maybe one side feels neglected. But anyway the only way ties can be cut due to distance is probably maybe it was mainly a one sided frienship or relationship but well it all works out sometimes, isn’t it? I’ve lost people that meant the world to me, but dear reader, that’s a story for another day.
Did I mention how expensive it is to move, especially with this current economic crisis in the country? Cause yes it is so damn expensive and if you were actually not prepared to move you’d actually be crying evrytime you see your bank balance. I just came to realize that prices of items differ from one place to the other cause I swear at one point I thought I was being robbed in broad daylight but anyway what can we do (cries in agony).
But honestly depending on your mindset and goals you want to achieve that comes with you having to relocate, it actually is not that hard since with time you get to adapt and love your new surrounding. To be honest, moving gave me the much needed peace i’ve always desired. I am happy
This post was heavily inspired by a friend of mine, Claire, who suggested I should write this blog.